Preparing for the Senior Living “Talk”

What to do before talking with an aging parent about moving to senior living?

Most of us hope it is a conversation we will never have to have with our parent. We may have even gone as far as to promise them we would never make them move to assisted living or to a nursing home. But the odds are good that if your parent is 65 or over, they will probably need some type of senior care in the future.

How do you prepare to talk to your parent about senior care or senior living?

Grown son kissing his elderly mom on the foreheadThe aging experts at the faith-based, nonprofit St. Charles Community offer families a few ideas to get started:

  1. Know Your Options. Spend time online educating yourself on the different types of senior care and what is available in your loved one’s local community. Take advantage of resources like our Help for Your Parent page.
  2. Make Preliminary Calls and Visits. If you live close enough to your parent’s community, consider visiting and meeting with a few senior care providers on your own. Especially if you think you are likely to get resistance from them when you tackle this subject. Remember to keep your parent(s) lifestyle in mind during your senior living visits and not yours. If your mother is more comfortable in a skirt and pearl necklace for dinner than jeans, find a community that reflects that. Ask the home care providers you are considering if you can meet the caregivers. You may be able to eliminate options you know just aren’t a good fit. Once you narrow the choices down, you can return for a visit with your parent or schedule an in-home care assessment.
  3. Word of Mouth. Ask your network of friends to give their honest opinion on what they have heard and experienced with senior care providers. If you no longer live in the area you grew up in but your parents do, think about who you might know from the neighborhood or from high school. Are you in contact with any of them even through social media? You can also utilize online senior care reviews from sources like Angie’s List and for unbiased family reviews.

Are you trying to prepare yourself to talk with your parent about senior care?

What is your greatest fear?

St. Charles Community is Northern Kentucky and Greater Cincinnati’s most trusted senior care partner. A faith-based, nonprofit organization, we have served elders in our community for over 50 years. Contact us today at 859.331.3224 or email info(Replace this parenthesis with the @ sign) for your senior care and living needs.